Trust Issues

Easier said than done. Trusting someone is one of the hardest things we can do as humans. The one thing that we can count on, however, is that not one person is the same. That truly is the idea that we need to come to terms with. Think about the last person who has let you down, the last person who stabbed you in the back or even just made you feel unsteady. Now think about your expectations about what you believe the outcome will be with the next person who you open up your arms to. Typically, we’re unsure how to feel. Trust is a big reason we don’t even start certain relationships because we’re somehow sure that the next relationship will end up like our previous ones. We need to stop treating every person that comes along our path like they are the same person that we once had to let go of. It would be hypocritical for me to say that I have mastered having faith in every person who seemed they would make my life better, but I am trying. It takes time and experience to be able to lean on someone else with your problems, emotions, secrets, etc. Many of us have been through situations that have caused us to second guess someone else’s worth in our lives. Many of these situations have proved us wrong. And many of them, unfortunately, have proved us right.

Seriously though, we can all agree that relationships with people that don’t work out are for various reasons, maybe sometimes similar reasons, but when it comes to those situations in which you’ve felt like you’ve been let down, we cannot blame the idea of trust being nonexistent or due to a certain stereotype of person. In reality, everyone has different motives. Sure, trust is a broad term and sometimes similar things happen where you have no faith in really anyone anymore - such as being cheated on in an intimate relationship or being left in the dark by a friend. Shit happens, but when I tell you that you need to keep your head held high and trust in your heart that you will find the right person who will not let you down, do it because it will happen. The breakage of trust typically leaves uneasiness in the road ahead, but that does not mean continue on with life thinking your next will have the same motives as your ex. Sure opening up to people is hard. It is hard feeling as if you’re vulnerable exposing your true self to some people. And let’s be real, relationships fail, people get hurt, but you have to move on. Most importantly, don’t ever blame yourself because you thought someone would turn out differently than they did. You have to learn from all experiences, from the good or the bad, we grow from it all. Take it and run with it.